Seasons

It’s Just Not Your Season

Lately, when I wake up in the morning I can feel that cool, crisp, fall air sneaking its way through my bedroom windows. When I open my eyes I feel that kind of cold in my bedroom where I immediately need to grab my blanket and pull it tighter. From there, it just gets even harder to get out of bed. This is how I know that it is FINALLY in the low 60s… which means it is my favorite time of the year. Fall!

Fall is the best. People love it. If you were to tell me that you don’t enjoy fall, I don’t know if I would believe you. I think it’s because of all the change: the changes in the weather, the changes in the scenery. It’s the biggest season in life with the most obvious change. Just like the seasons of the year change, seasons of our life change too.

I wrote a blog post a few months after I graduated college about how I felt like I was in a rut, a post-grad depression. It was a life change shock to me. I thrived in college. I was on top of the world, constantly surrounded by my friends and my boyfriend (now fiancé). I was exceeding in school and extracurricular activities. I wasn’t ready for a change and then graduation came before I knew it. I had no idea what I was doing with my life. I watched so many people my age or a little older post on social media about their new job offers, recent engagements, their new marriages, or how they were expecting and I thought, literally, why not me? Why am I not good enough to have something exciting going on in my life? Why is it not my time? Why is it not my season?

When I get that job…when I get engaged…when I go out and by that outfit… when I can just get that many followers…when things change…I will then be happy. I kept waiting for the next season of life, praying, wishing and hoping. However, I wasn’t making the most of that current season of my life. I was impatient. I thought it just wasn’t my season. I just wasted away that current season of my life fixated on the fact that things would change, even though I didn’t know when or how. I prayed for the next season of life to hurry and get here so things would change… and since then a lot has changed in my life but I should have just enjoyed the season I was in. I was in it for a reason. A few things started to change and I still kept praying, wishing and hoping more and more would get better. It sounds depressing. I promise I’m not depressed, I’m very happy with life. Back then, I just wanted a change.

Looking back, I can recognize the problem now that I was dealing with. So I thought I should share with you all, my readers. It wasn’t until recently that I finally began to understand that it just wasn’t my season, but no season is if I don’t make the most of the season I am currently in. Sometimes seasons of our life are scary, we aren’t where we want to be, we don’t have what we thought we would have and we want a change so badly that we focus on the future. However, we are exactly where we need to be in that season of life.

Recently, one of my friends said something to me and I didn’t want to hear it, but I needed to hear it. Something like, “Just remember not to always be praying about the future. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to pray about the future but ask God how he wants to use you in this present situation. You’re in this season for a reason. So don’t miss it. I know it’s hard when you’re unhappy. I have been there and I only wanted things to happen but there were so many ways he used me in that time. Looking back, I am thankful. I am able to see what he needed me there for. Even though I wasn’t as happy as I knew I would’ve been. I’m praying for you.”

Then again something happened about a week later. I read and shared a post by Me Too, Sister on Facebook that really hit home, to summarize it talked about how everyone falls in love in different times in their life, some people date 6 months, some 5 years but everyone has their own love story and their own time. I would think most single people took out of it that a serious relationship will happen for them in their own time. Those in a serious relationship probably read it and thought marriage and engagement will happen for them in their own time too. However, I took something else out of it. I thought, wow. Everything has its own perfect timing. Every season of life is important.

There was a time in my life that I had to look myself in the mirror and say, stop wishing for something to change. Stop waiting for the next best thing because it’s not going to happen! If you keep wishing your life away and waiting for a change, how can you open your eyes and see what is happening so good in your life today?

All this talk about Fall and how it’s the best time of year, I got on Pinterest to look up basic Fall ideas like recipes, outfits and everything else and this bible verse popped up on my Pinterest feed: Ecclesiastes 3. So I looked it up and I read it. At this point, I’m just like okay, God, I get it. I literally laughed to myself. I think he has a sense of humor.

3 To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;

4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;

6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.

The point I am trying to make is that it may not be your season, your car may be constantly messing up, you may be wishing you had a relationship, you may be hoping for that job to come your way or you may be hoping for that promotion, you may be waiting for that paycheck to by that outfit, if you could just get one of these things to change, your life will be better. The season of your life will change and everything will just be a little better, right? No. No. No. It’s not your season because you’re not making it your season. It’s your life so make the most of every day. If you constantly wait for the change or the next best thing, you can’t appreciate the things that are going on in your season right now.

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Shout-out to my girl Kate for the photos

My challenge to you is to ask yourself, why is this season your season? If you do that, I promise it’ll be your season!

Until next week,

Shelbyallover

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