Defining Friendship

According to the Google dictionary, friendship is defined as a state of mutual trust and support between allied nations. However, friendship to me is mostly defined by the actions, trust, and support that 6 individual girls have shown me over the last nine years.

When I was 15 years old I was sitting in my high school sophomore English class. There was a girl who sat behind me, her name was Grace. We talked a lot in the first couple of months that year and then one day she was talking about an event with another friend she had in class. I wanted to go, so I did something out of character and I invited myself… the rest is history.


I had no idea that conversation, that one night, would lead to me spending every single weekend with her and the other girls she hung out with. These girls she called her best friends, these girls she knew for many, many years before we even met. I bonded with them. They were all so different yet had one thing in common, they all knew how to be a real, genuine, there for you in any moment of life, kind of friend. God brought them to me in the perfect time. One of the hardest times of my life, when I was just trying to figure out who I was. Quickly I felt comfortable. I shared my secrets, laughed, prayed and even cried with them. We made mistakes together, we got into trouble, we had fights, sometimes bad fights and we had good times, really good times and made the best memories. I constantly wanted to be around this group of girls because they were my support system. I thanked God for them. The only regret I had, was that I only wished I met them when I was way younger.



We stood by each other during all of the hard high school things. First boyfriends, first breakups, first parties, first fights with mean girls, good grades, bad grades, home, and family drama, first loves, first actual heart breaks, college acceptance letters and everything else in between. Before we knew it the high school years had come and gone. High school graduation came and we all rode to graduation together, screaming and blaring I’m Not Gonna Cry by Corey Smith. I remember being afraid that day that I may lose these girls in the near future. I mean, we got accepted in different colleges and we would be going somewhat separate ways soon. Four of us moved to Cookeville, one of us stayed home and went to school in Murfreesboro, one of us stayed home and worked full-time and one of us moved off to Chattanooga for school. We started our semi-adult lives but of course, the little distance we had didn’t stop our friendship. Then one of us transferred and five of us moved into a house. We lived together for a year and realized that wasn’t going to work out… but that didn’t hurt our friendship.



Now, some of us have graduated from college, some of us have gotten married, some of us have started our careers and most of us have moved away from the town we all became best friends in. We have grown up. We have all seen so many changes in each other’s lives and we and we have all always been there for each other, no matter how hard or awkward, or uncomfortable it got.



We all have busy lives now and we don’t get to see each other nearly as much as we used to, but we make time when we can. We aren’t always together as a group, sometimes it’s just a couple or a few of us together for dinner.  We go weeks without seeing each other but we never, ever go a day without speaking. I know I am so blessed to have these girls as my best friends. I know things will only become harder for us. Life will get busier, crazier and harder. We will probably move even further away, but I have no doubt in my mind that we will always remain friends and always pick up right where we left off.


See to me, friendship isn’t by who you hang out with every single day or every night and have the most fun with. Friendship is much more than that. It’s answering a phone call in the middle of the night and rushing to your friend’s house because she and her boyfriend broke up, her dog died or she is dealing with some real deep family drama. It’s going to meet your friend at a gas station and filling up her gas tank because she ran out of money and needs to make it home. It’s knowing they have to tell you about their big announcement before the whole world finds out.


It’s always making time to celebrate birthdays, holidays and major life events together. It’s keeping up with what’s going on in each other’s lives and caring. It’s living the best you can, making the most of your life and also making time to talk to and occasionally see the ones who you love the most. The ones you know will always be the most fun to be around.


So thank you my flock, Kayla, Gracie, Rachel, Hailey, Saidee and Katie, for being the best friends I could ever ask for. God blessed me with you all. I have no idea what I would do without each of you and I can’t wait to see where our future takes us because I know that no matter the distance, the business or the craziness, it will always be together. I love ya’ll more than you’ll ever know.




One thought on “Defining Friendship

  1. How did I not see this before now….what a great post! Trust me, the older you get the more you realize that the true friends are the best. Quality over quantity for sure. I so appreciate the genuine friends God has blessed me with…those that I can be myself, I can lose it with, who can see me cry, vent, etc…. those whom I know will keep me grounded and be there for me no matter what. I am so glad you have your “flock.” Enjoy every minute and don’t lose touch with them!


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